We can uplift some people. And get the worst from others.

We can be mirrors for love, safety, care for some, or mirrors for unsafety, control, fear for others.

And that’s ok.

We meet each other where we are.

We walk together as long as we need.

We need all that happens to us.

The good. The hurt.

We need to see all of us, and that happens through the relationships we have with others.

In my perspective, life gives us opportunities.

To discover who we are, how we can be. What we have inside us. What needs attention, care, healing.

People and context are only there to set a stage for our unraveling.

They come into our lives to teach us, heal us, help us grow, transform.

It’s easy to look outside, to blame.

And so much harder to look inside and see what was awakened in us by that experience.

What was triggered there.

Because that’s the place where we need to pay attention.

That doesn’t mean others cannot hurt us.

Sometimes intentionally, other times without being aware. Because of their wounds. Or needs. Or expectations.

But the only thing we can truly control is not others’ behaviors, but ourselves.

What we choose.

How we react.

What boundaries we need to set.

What we choose to carry.

And what we’re finally ready to let go.

Because healing doesn’t mean we never get hurt again.

It means we know how to return to ourselves with more love,

More clarity,

And the wisdom to walk away from what’s no longer aligned.

May you keep choosing yourself

Not in bitterness,

But in reverence.

Not in defense,

But in truth.

Not to punish,

But to protect what’s sacred within you.

Aniela🤍

www.MindfulTherapist.us

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