She cannot invite you in when she feels your restlessness, impatience, or need.

You cannot rush the moment she’s ready.

You cannot demand her openness.

You cannot shame her for not being soft and feminine when all she feels from you is pressure.

You cannot ask her to lose herself in you if she doesn’t feel safe.

You can’t show her your anger and expect her tenderness.

You can’t restrict her freedom and expect her to blossom in sensual expression.

You can’t ask for her loyalty if you’re disloyal to her need for respect.

You can’t seek her admiration if you don’t know how to truly see her.

You can’t cry out for trust while ignoring the voice of her needs.

You can’t crave her intimacy if you offer her indifference.

You can’t ask her to meet your needs while neglecting hers,

while making her feel like an afterthought in your life.

If you want her softness, meet her with your own.

Be gentle. Pay attention.

Look at her. Really see her.

Read her body language. Listen, not to reply, but to understand.

If you want her to be sensual, create safety with your presence, not pressure.

If you want her to show up in love, show her you can hold the ground for her to land.

Be the calm she can lean into.

The steady energy that lets her exhale, unclench, and trust.

Let her give herself to you, not because she must,

but because she wants to. Because she feels safe to open.

If you want her to follow, find her rhythm first.

Attune to her. Be patient.

Let her see that you are not in a rush to conquer her,

but willing to dance with her spirit.

Call her name, and then wait.

Invite her with your presence.

Let your voice be soft. Let your touch be tender.

Let your energy speak before your words ever do.

Be the space where she doesn’t have to perform.

Where she’s not responsible for your validation.

Where she can simply be.

And in that being,

in that freedom, that honoring,

she will give you everything.

Because the door to a woman cannot be forced.

It opens from within.

And only when she feels safe enough to turn the key.

May you remember:

The feminine cannot be owned, only invited.

May you soften before you reach.

May you listen before you ask.

May you offer presence instead of pressure.

May you become the ground where her trust grows roots.

And may you be patient enough to witness her bloom,

not when you want her to,

but when her soul feels safe to open.

Only then, she will meet you,

not because you pushed the door,

but because she chose

to let you in.

With love, 🤍

Aniela

www.MindfulTherapist.us

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